Have you heard of the phrase “Empty vessels make the most noise”? It’s a proverb that means that those with the least talent and knowledge usually speak the most, speak the loudest, and create the most fuss — whatever makes their presence felt the most.

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Why Do Empty Vessels Make the Most Noise?

Empty vessels are used in the analogy because in physics, empty containers create louder noises than filled ones. If you take two empty glasses, fill one up with water, and then blow into both glasses, you’ll find that the empty glass creates a louder noise than the filled one. That’s because the air column (i.e. the empty space) allows sound waves to pass through and bounce off the sides of the glass, which creates an amplified vibration.


In physics, empty vessels make the most noise. Apparently, this is the case in real life too. (Image: torbakhopper)

I find this proverb very true in real life. Often times, people with the most negative and loudest responses may not know more than others. They are loud only because there is an emptiness in them echoing these noises, such as

An emptiness in their spirit, or

— hence creating the loud noises that we hear.

My Experience with “Noisy” Comments

On my blog, I often receive critical comments. The loudest comments — meaning the abrasive comments, not the longest — usually don’t have a point to add. Rather, they convey the commenters’ unhappiness and I am simply their dartboards at the moment.

Consider these comments I’ve gotten before:

1) Comment for Do You Dread Growing Older?, an article that I wrote in 2009 (I was 25 then) about growing older and why there’s no need to dread it:


2) Comment for Why I Used to Be Afraid of Intimidating Men, my article about how I used to dial down my personality around men but later realized that I should own my true self instead:


3) Comment for 10,000 Hours To Develop Talent, my article on the importance of investing time to develop your skills. I shared my personal example as well as others’ examples of this principle at work:


4) And one last one, comment for Top 10 Reasons You Should Stop Watching TV, my article on the negative effects of watching TV and we can do about them:



(And more that I shared here, here, and here.)

“Noisy” Workshop Participants

Then there are my workshops where I get “noisy” participants from time to time. By “noisy,” I don’t mean outspoken participants (I love these participants). What I’m referring to are workshop trolls who keep interjecting and disrupting the session.

I remember one time when I had a hostile attendee at a public talk. For some reason, he kept interjecting while I was talking and making negative remarks. An example would be when a different attendee asked if I read books for inspiration. I said that I rarely read books but get my inspiration from around me (including reading websites and people), after which X curtly interjected with, “And yet you sell books,” suggesting there was some form of contradiction (there isn’t). To begin with, I do not sell books per se and I never said that I was an author at the talk. For him to interject with such a presumptuous comment was odd.

When I tried to speak to him after the talk, I got more of the same treatment. He was a very tense, angry man and kept giving curt and judgmental responses. His wife in comparison was much nicer, and even corrected her husband when he made another presumptuous remark when talking to me. I simply let him be and moved on to other attendees.

Noisy Agents in Personal Life

Then there are acquaintances and on rare occasion, friends who turn out to be negative noise agents. I was once backstabbed by a “friend” which I wrote about in this post. I once met a business acquaintance who was very arrogant and kept making judgmental remarks about me and the other people he worked with. I have also received my fair share of negative remarks from naysayers, critical people, and energy vampires.

Feeling Sad

In the past when I faced such encounters, I would brood over them. I’d feel responsible for their negativity (even though I didn’t cause it), and that I should address that.


A little girl, alone, in a classroom (Image: keith ellwood)

I would wonder, Why did he/she act that way? Is there something wrong about me that made him/her do that? What could I have done to prevent this?

My default thinking was, They are right, I am wrong, and It’s all my fault. And “It’s all my fault” was a burden that I kept carrying in me.


A Recent Incident

So the same thing happened lately when I encountered a workshop troll. This troll made a lot of offhand remarks during class even though I had provided him with the steps to break out of his problem.

As it was a course series, I would mull over his comments after each class, work out a plan to address his issues, and then integrate that into my next class. While a standard class design takes me a few days, each class in this series took me a week as I thought about all the negative comments that this person would say during class, and planned solutions to address them.


Girl thinking on the swing (Image: Hipnos)

Now it would be great if my efforts made a difference. Except that they didn’t. In fact, they didn’t make any difference at all. This participant behaved in the exact same way right up to the last class, with his quibbles and disengaged attitude toward changing his life.

Despite spending all my time to cater the class content to him and giving him personalized help, he didn’t act on it but continued his negativity. This made me realize something.


My first realization was that this guy didn’t act on my help because it wasn’t the point of his grumbles. Rather, he made those negative remarks because of his issues. It didn’t matter how I conducted the course because he didn’t take it to resolve his issues – he took it to delay working on them. While all the other participants made positive progress in each class, he would complain about something.

Yet I had spent a lot of energy to make sense of his comments. I did so because he was louder than the other folks. Louder, in terms of 

his negative attitude,his disruptive comments, andhow often he made such comments.

He stood out like a sore thumb from other participants who were eager to learn. Because he was loud, he got my attention, and hence my time and energy.

This led to my second realization: Just because someone is loud doesn’t mean they deserve your attention. It doesn’t mean their words have more value than others. Just because someone is loud… it doesn’t mean anything at all. In short,

Loud doesn’t mean something is important or more important than others.Loud doesn’t mean something deserves more attention than the other things.

As the saying goes, empty vessels make the most noise. And empty vessels shouldn’t get our attention just because they are noisy.

What This Means for Us

Many of us tend to focus on critical, rude, and angry people because they are louder than others. If something is loud it gets heard, and what gets heard gets our time, attention, and energy.

It’s like what I wrote in Are You Focusing on the Black Dot?: When there’s a black dot on a piece of white paper, our attention goes to the black dot. Because it contrasts with the otherwise white and perfect surface.


When shown a paper with a black dot, most of us will zoom down to the black dot (Image: Personal Excellence)

But just because someone is loud doesn’t mean they are more deserving of our attention. If anything, their comments/actions may well have the least value, because their loudness may stem from an emptiness within. An emptiness that has nothing to do with you or me. Because “Empty vessels make the most noise.”

So how can you deal with empty vessels? I have 7 important tips:

Realize loud doesn’t mean more important. Sometimes, loud may well indicate emptiness and non-importance, as opposed to importance and value. In which case it should deserve less or even none of our attention!Learn to differentiate between good advice and destructive noise. There are often many people trying to tell us who to be and what to do. Not all advice is good or right for us though; some may be noise. When listening to an advice, determine if it (a) resonates with you, (b) aligns with your values, and (c) will support you in achieving your higher goals. If an advice is “no” on all three counts, then it’s probably noise — abandon it.As opposed to listening to the loudest people because they are loud and trying to get our attention, shift our attention to the right people. These are the people whose words matter, who know what they’re doing, whose knowledge we seek, and who are on the right path in life.

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Realize the “right” people can be quiet. Quiet in the sense that they don’t shout for our attention, but instead quietly support us, help us, and encourage us along the way. I call these people the harpists. They are people who play melodious music in the background, music that is so serene that we don’t know that it’s there. These people quietly express their power, which is why they don’t stick out like a sore thumb but blend into the background. Identify these people, be conscious of their presence, and focus our attention on them.

How to deal with negative and unsupportive people:

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