We love each other but can’t be together.
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Love is the most vigorous force in the universe. It’s a magical process of transforming a stone into gold. It is alchemy. It is the most sublime feeling, yet it holds the power to destroy us, at any given time.
It is scary how something so close to perfection, a feeling so pure and magnificent can either make us the happiest person on the Earth, or the most miserable individual in the universe.
Naturally, when I first think of love, all that comes to my mind is a fairytale about two people destined to meet on their journey of life. I visualize a brief second when their souls connect.
I visualize genesis.
The beginning of something incredibly profound. A pure, one-of-a-kind connection.
However, contrary to popular wishful thinking, love isn’t always a fairytale. It’s not that it doesn’t exist, it’s just that not all of us are blessed to experience it.
And that’s exactly how some people discover the ugly side of love. The dark side of love.
The pain of loving so intensely, but not being able to enjoy that love with the other person. The excruciating feeling of loving someone you can never be with.
I know we can’t be together but I love you.
The kind of love that doesn’t manifest as a beautiful, new beginning. But, instead, a kind of love that will probably end way before it starts, or in some cases a love that can never be returned.
You can love someone from the bottom of your heart and still never get the chance to be together. You can expose your soul and give them a part of yourself, and not have shot at love with that person.
Because the sad truth is, sometimes, love just isn’t enough.
Despite all its pureness, despite all the infinity it promises, we can’t be together
There comes a time when you realize that every fairytale, every romantic story or movie you’ve ever heard or watched, is made up. That magic they show doesn’t just happen to us in a blink of an eye.
We have to work for it. And sometimes we have to work hard to achieve it.
We are all unique beings with different sets of traits and beliefs. The infatuation at the beginning might make us fall in love with a person’s flaws and quirks, or make us think we love them, where in reality we’ve only agreed to accept them.
Unfortunately, we live in a world, governed by rationality and pure logic. And, love as we know it, it’s an irrational feeling.
So, it is only a matter of time until the irrational sensation fades away and reality strikes.
And, when reality does strike us, we begin to see them for what they really are. We realize that the flaws we thought we loved about them, are actually things that kind of bothered us.
The thing is, you’re never going to find someone who will be 100% compatible with you. And love won’t always be a quick bandage for the things that don’t work. The only thing you’ll be able to do is to compromise.
And, compromising is always a choice. You either agree to compromise in order to make it work, or you break it off.
You try, and you try, and you try, but when something just doesn’t agree with you, compromises become useless.
There a lot of reasons why people who love each other can’t be together. It depends on us whether we’ll be brave and determined enough to accept the haunting past and terrifying mistakes our partners made.
Often it’s even simpler, and more physical than that. More and more often couples are engaging in long-distance relationships that start off intense and slowly fizzle as the realities of distance sink in.
This type of relationship is especially common with the best dating apps that focus on real relationships. They help a lot of lonely singles find their match but seldom take into account how challenging being apart can become over time.
What was once a fun and exciting journey to meet your partner turns into a chore where you spend hours in a car or plane. There are many things that make a being in a relationship easier solely from living nearby.
Some you’ll accept, but some will always be there to haunt you. They will cut you deep. Because once someone we loved, hurts us, we immediately lose our faith in them and our hopes for the future.
We become strangers to love because our trust was shattered to pieces.
But, chances we all have scars that have never fully healed. The only thing we can do about it is to live with it.
However, the painful feeling of loving them even though you know you will never be together, makes your soul burn. You might wait for a new love that will eventually heal you, but it won’t.
Because the feeling you have for “the one that got away”, will never ever die.
Loving someone but couldn’t be together with them can break your heart. Because maybe you had dreams and plans with them to get married and be a family. To have that peaceful home filled with love, understanding, and respect with one another. To be each others’ best friends and lovers.
I’ve been in situations like that, situations where it seemed impossible for our relationship to work, but I know that we weren’t doing our best to make it work. And we decided to go our separate ways because we weren’t willing to compromise ourselves.
A relationship can be a successful one only if both partners are doing their part. Otherwise, it is best to walk away and find someone who will be there for you through thick and thin. Someone who will cherish you, respect you, and love you the way you deserve.
Because, when two people love each other it will be easy. They will be together.
We Love Each Other But We Can’t Be Together…
When you love each other but can’t be together it can hurt like hell. It will make you question everything. You can even start obsessing and overwhelming your mind with questions such as, ‘Why we can’t be together?’ ‘What am I doing wrong?’ ‘Why the love we have for one another is not enough?’ and so on.
I noticed that when I get into that state of experiencing an emotional rollercoaster, I help myself by letting my emotions out and then controlling them. Because when I am in a state of being angry and sad, I can’t think rationally. So, first, I must let all those emotions out so that I can see things more clearly.
And when all my emotions are out in the open, when I took the time I needed to heal, then I look at the situation for what it is. Because the thing is, I don’t believe it. I don’t believe when someone says “we love each other but we can’t be together.”
Of course, there could be numerous obstacles along the way, like one person or both are married, or the relationship is long-distance. I am not talking about those situations. I am talking about when two people love each other but can’t be together even though the “obstacles” they think they have are minor and can easily be overcome. That’s not love in my opinion.
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