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Heal the Boy and the man will appear is a term that came from The Tony Robbins documentary, I am not your guru. It’s one of my favorite documentaries I’ve seen, even though in many areas it did lack. One of which I wanted to see more of was the life of Tony Robbins. How he lived, his habits, his morning routines, etc. Before you read this post, the two below are prerequisites.

It wouldn’t hurt to watch I am not your guru. you can find it on netflix.

All Of Our Fear is Set Within Instances That Happened in Our Youth

So what? Heal the boy and the man will appear. All of your fear, your anxiety, your pain and your terrors came from what happened to you when you were in your youth. The reason for your suffering is a loss of control. Loss of control is the biggest fear in the world, almost everyone has it. I’ll explain.

What is murder? Losing control of your life.

Rape? Losing control of the most personal places of your body.

Someone stealing something from you? Losing possessions, the loss of being able to control your car, your world.

Losing your job? You lose it. That means it cannot be controlled. What is lost is no longer yours. What is no longer yours cannot be controlled.

Everything that you fear comes from a loss of control. It seems insurmountable, how you would fix a loss of this but you can. You stop caring. You stop caring about things you cannot control, and now you’re at peace. You cannot control what happened to you as a child. Your a man now, let it go. If you’re a man in his teens or twenties your parents failed you. You may have been raised by a single mom, or a dad that wasn’t masculine or around much for you to look up to. This is causing men to be depressed. Because they don’t understand how to be men or the skills required. Often times one of the best things in the world you can do, is to let go. I wrote about this more in the only way to beat depression as a man. This is meant as a companion post to this piece, as the former didn’t expand enough on the concepts I wanted to share with you.

Without a strong figure in your world you’ll never be taught the fundamental skills you need to be a great man or woman(women read this blog, Surprisingly. ). With the internet you don’t need strong parent figures anymore. The information is out there for you, but you have to take it. You can waste your time looking at fit girls on Instagram, or read the greatest works of knowledge the world has seen. Including Principals. The choice is yours. You can choose to never let go of childhood trauma, to always grasp at “the good old days” even though there isn’t any. The past is a figment of your imagination, a mirage you keep chasing with a parched throat that will never quench your thirst. The present, this moment right now is the only thing that’s real. Many studies have shown that your memories are false anyway. The brain in all of it’s mysterious glory has a habit of changing things up on you. The beautiful thing is, it doesn’t have to suck.

If you hate your life at this moment, right now, you can decide to change it. You have unlimited power that you don’t realize or understand. I’m telling you right now, whatever you want, you deserve. There is nothing in the world that keeps you from happiness except yourself. Nothing. If you’re tired of being a loser, you can quit pornography forever. If you hate your apartment and your job, you can use breathing methods to make you superhuman focused. Then with your abundant energy you work 100+ hours a week chasing your dreams. What is 100 hours of work a week for a year, to obtain everything you have ever wanted? Is it better to work forty hours a week, jerk off all the time and keep watching Netflix for ten years until you kill yourself?

Take a moment. Think long and hard about what is important to you and how your time is being used.

Then, read why time is the most valuable resource you have.

Shameful moments in our youth are cancers that must be embraced.


Realize this truth: nothing matters.

It’s beautiful once you realize the simplicity of things, that nothing actually matters, it’s our minds that make them so. The things you thought that mattered when you were young, mean nothing in the larger scheme of things. The shame you feel in your youth is a cancer that you must let go of, because it doesn’t matter and it’s parasitically draining your passion, your life force.

Does being made fun of in high school effect you right now? No.

Will a gay experience in middle school stop the earth from spinning resulting in a cataclysmic descend into a black hole? No.

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Will a divorce that gave you insurmountable pain as a child result in a car crash that paralyzes you? Probably not.